Remember when I decided to try online dating? What's that? No, you don't? Oh okay. Well, I'll explain it to you. Basically I had this genius idea that I would make an "honest" profile on an online dating site. The theory was that I would put everything out there that I may be embarrassed about or a quirk I have in an effort to weed out suitors who can't handle it. I thought that if I put everything out there then I would find someone who was interested in me for who I really am. No need to spill after the third date!
If you want to hear my full explanation you can listen to the podcast from that show here.
Well, I gotta be honest with you guys (and I HATE that phrase), but I only lasted less than 24 hours on the online dating site.
It's not that I didn't enjoy it. It was fun, like online shopping! And just like online shopping where there is an endless stream of shoes, there was an endless stream of potential suitors. But, frankly, all the options left me overwhelmed.
Let me give you a taste of what my profile looked like so you have an idea of what the guys were looking at when they contacted me.
Within 12 hours of creating my profile I had over seven responses! So much for my honest profile shooing people away! I still don't know though how much I believe that these guys actually looked at the "honest profile. I got the impression that a lot of them just looked at the picture.
I found one guy who looked like he had potential. He was kind of cute and messaged me right when I got in here at about 5 a.m. I know, this sound be setting off alarms, but he claimed that his dog kicked him in the face or something while he was sleeping and he couldn't go back to sleep.
I sent a few messages back and forth (with the help of Intern Monet!) He seemed nice enough, but it was just weird. I felt like I was in middle school and I was chatting with the computer robot SmarterChild. I know people meet people on these things, but I have no idea how. It felt so unnatural.
And then there were the creepers.
It's bad enough getting harassed in real life, do I really need to be in the virtual world too? I won't say the specific comments, but it really turned me off to the whole thing. It also kind of scared me. That's not good for my self esteem and my safety.
But I don't want to dwell on them. The majority were really nice and seemed friendly. I just couldn't get over the awkwardness of the whole situation. So I decided to delete my profile. It was kind of a spilt second decision, but I have no regrets. I think I just want to meet someone the natural way, like at the library or a bar!
But as far as the "honest" profile, I believe that it worked! I highly suggest it if you are considering online dating. I thought I wouldn't receive any responses, but I received many (10 total within 23 hours). I think that if you really are looking to meet someone it may work for you! You never know where your Prince Charming is!